Irena Shwartzman, LMFT

Life can feel overwhelming, especially when relationships and personal challenges start to pile up. I help my clients untangle the complicated parts of life—making the confusing feel clearer and the heavy feel lighter. My goal is to create a safe, supportive space where you feel heard, understood, and empowered to move toward a happier and more fulfilling life.

As a therapist in San Jose, CA, I specialize in working with couples who are navigating infidelity, rebuilding trust, and struggling with communication breakdowns. Whether you’re trying to reconnect, co-parent effectively, or decide what the future looks like for your relationship, I bring compassion and practical tools to help you move forward. I also have experience supporting LGBTQ+ couples and families with the unique challenges they may face.

In addition to couples work, I help young adults and adults manage challenges such as depression, anxiety, social anxiety, trauma, self-harm, phobias, attachment struggles, stress, and identity development. As an EMDR-trained therapist, I use evidence-based tools to help clients heal from trauma and build resilience.

I also offer therapy in English, Hebrew, Russian, and Ukrainian, making support accessible to diverse communities here in the Bay Area.

On a personal note, I’ve been married for 25 years and have raised two wonderful children. I know firsthand that relationships take effort, communication, and humor—something I like to bring into my sessions when it feels right. When I’m not working with clients, I enjoy traveling and exploring new places.

If you’re ready to feel supported, gain clarity, and start building the life and relationships you want, I’d be honored to walk alongside you.

A note from the owner:

Irena has been with Therapy By Choice for the past couple of years and I cannot express how much of an asset she is to the team. Irena's clients have spoke so highly of her and it's clear that she is an amazing couples and individual therapist. Her attention to detail and personal treatment plans highlights the unique focus she has on each of her clients.

Irena has helped hundreds of clients and plenty of clients see results faster than conventional therapy. Irena should be your couples or individual therapist if you are in crisis and want change fast. Get ready to learn skills and techniques that help you have a more positive relationship and better outlook on life with the help of Irena. Call or text to schedule an appointment 408-641-1388

Sincerely,

Leah Elvitsky, LMFT